LDRs. They’re not for everyone. But neither is being a woman working in sports. Let’s face it, we love the challenge of our jobs, so it’s no wonder we get caught up in a relationship and at some point it becomes long distance.
I met my boyfriend of over two and a half years ago at Chili’s. We were complete strangers. We ended up going out on dates for a week straight before he had to leave for a week of military training before going out on another week straight of dates. Five weeks after our first date, I took an 18-hour bus drive from Virginia to Georgia to spend time with him and meet his family. At the time, everyone I knew thought I was crazy.
We lived four hours apart when we started dating. He lived 45 minutes from where I grew up, so whenever I went to see him I also went home. It was an easy drive, and we saw each other every two to three weeks. A year after we met I got a job offer in Kansas, which was 18 hours away AND in another time zone.
It was hard. Working in sports means long hours. Things around the house get neglected. When you get home you want to crash and have someone dote on you hand and foot. When you finally recuperate you want to go out and do things. All of this, you’ll have to suck up and do on your own.
It’s hard moving to a new place and having a significant other who isn’t present. You’re weary to make friends with guys because they might not understand that you’re in a serious relationship or your man might get jealous. Your single girlfriends will want to go out to the bars and meet guys. Your girlfriends in relationships will be… well, in their relationship.
The beauty of a long distance relationship for a woman working in sports is you would probably see your significant other the same amount if they actually lived in the same town. We work nights, weekends and holidays. Be real, you barely see your cat or your dog! How could you make time to start a relationship if you’re always busy?
The worst part of a long distance relationship being separated by so many miles, it’s easier to call it quits and just give up. If things are getting hard and rocky, you don’t have the pressure of seeing them around town and it seem so easy to just call the whole thing off. Plus, you’ll be so busy working you won’t have time to be sad.
Before I accepted the Kansas gig, I had been talking to my boyfriend about moving back home to spend the summer with him and get an internship to try to get back into social. He was adamant about that not happening. We got into it pretty bad. I couldn’t understand why he wouldn’t want to spend a couple months with me before he left for military training. He wouldn’t let me spend the summer with him because he was pushing me to applying for full-time work in social media. He knew how passionate I was about my career and knew I could find a great job. He didn't want me to have a fallback plan because he wanted me to go all in. What a great guy, right?
In Atlanta, I can take a direct flight to my boyfriend and be there in an hour and a half. A round trip flight only costs $120. It’s a lot easier to see him now than when I was in Kansas, but I’d be lying if I said I’m okay with this. I love my job, I love where I’m at location wise, but a big part of my life is still not with me.
So that’s where we’re at. Each pursuing our passions and developing as adults in different states. All the challenges we face have given our relationship a solid foundation. Eventually, he will be overseas. Many of the military spouses I’ll meet won’t have experienced being separated, but we will. We will know how to support and love each other even when we’re too busy to communicate in the traditional ways. Long distances relationships aren’t for everyone. But neither is being a woman working in a male-dominated industry. We are strong and we can do it, all of it.