After reading about some of my colleagues’ long distance relationships, military relationships, marriages and divorces, I realized we hadn’t covered the single life of working in sports. As someone who’s mastered the art of being a single female working in sports I figured I should share that perspective with our readers.
I’ll start by saying while reading the previous posts in this relationship series, jealousy creeped into my mind. I was jealous of my colleagues who have a significant other to lean on. But then I remembered how much I love my independence and I was like “oh nah I love being single.”
Working in sports keeps me busy, it’s hard to have a social life and even harder for me to date. Honestly, I have no idea how people find significant others outside of work when they work in this industry. And dating someone from work is completely out of the question for me. It might work for some people but that’s not my thing.
Yeah, having a significant other to support you after a long day of work, take the trash out when you don’t feel like it or wash the dishes after dinner sounds amazing. But you know what else sounds amazing? Not having someone steal all the blankets in the middle of the night, no one fighting with you about not being home when you say “I’ll be home in 30 minutes” but something comes up at work.
I’ve always been independent. I can count on one hand how many people I’ve had “serious” feelings about. I’m 27 and in no rush to settle down. I love my job, I love what I do. Although some days I think I would love to share it all with someone else I remember how good I am at enjoying this ride by myself.
My family and friends always tell me I should try online dating since I have a pretty minimal social life. Hard pass. I’m not looking for a boyfriend. I’m hardly even looking for friends. Anyway, most people that know me joke about how I’ll marry a SID.
Through being single I have learned to love myself and be comfortable with the woman I am. When I decided I would start taking better care of myself I did it for me, not for anyone else. The only time I really dislike being single is when I see family or friends for the first time in a while and they ask me “how’s life?” and you know they really are asking “are you still single?” Trust me, if I had someone worth sharing, I’d share.
My advice to the single ladies working in sports is this. Don’t settle. You are awesome and you don’t need to have a significant other in your life just because your friends do. The right guy (or girl) will come along when you least expect it. (I know, so cliché. Sorry). But until then, enjoy single life. Go out with your friends and flirt your butt off, go out on dates (when your work schedule allows it) but don’t feel like every person you meet has to be your next relationship.
If all else fails and you feel like you really need a companion, get a dog like I did. I’d rather a wagging tail when I get home from work than someone who forgot to put the toilet seat down. ;-)