Our college hosted an NCAA Softball regional this spring on shortened notice during graduation weekend with minimal student workers and we pulled off an impressive feat.
When the dust settled, we were heavily praised by our athletic director and softball coach for the effort we put into the weekend being a success. Whether it was stats, tarp pull in the pouring rain, or any other glorious addition to “other duties as assigned,” our staff jumped in and helped out because we’re part of the same team.
My role during the weekend wasn’t to be the top dog, but I was successful in my own right. I was successful at being a team player, an official scorer, and a kind host.
I was recently able to advocate for a promotion within my athletic department using examples of previous instances to show how I thrived in tough scenarios and led our communications team effectively. I’ve now earned the title of Piedmont’s Assistant Athletic Director of Communications and have expanded my role within Piedmont athletics.
Advocating for yourself can be a challenge. What do I say? How do I avoid coming off bossy and demanding?
Stealing a line from my previous article “I’ve Apologized for Being Successful for the Last Time,” I don’t want to come off as arrogant, but professionally, I do want to portray myself confidently at the risk of others being uncomfortable.
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If you advocate for a promotion and receive it, congratulations! You deserved it and were rewarded. If you advocate and don’t receive it, keep your head up, keep that same determination and find other routes to improve and advance.
Promotions, however, can come at a cost, and sometimes the price is high.
I’m successful at my job, successful at advocating for myself in that capacity (though that’s a growing area). But am I successful in all areas of my life? Depends on who you ask.
My success has cost me personally over the years in different relationships. Whether that manifested through jealousy, others feeling underappreciated or feeling second to the job, there were times I chose not to walk away from what I do.
It’s not about choosing one over the other. There does need to be balance. But there are times when my job is more demanding than others.
Keep in mind, all of this is coming from the same girl who presented on work/life balance at the CoSIDA Convention in 2018, so just know I’m a work in progress. But success didn’t come for me without a little imbalance at times.
Success is not universal, and here’s why I’m OK with that:
Whether you’re hosting championships, in the heart of the dreaded crossover season or capitalizing on the moment, success drives the determined and deters the indifferent.
Championships require a different standard. Senior Day needs to be special. Some events require more time and energy. Don’t get me wrong: none of my students will get half my energy and attention. But there’s an added emphasis in those instances and you kick into overdrive. However, overdrive can drive you right into the ground if you aren’t careful.
Again, we’re back to balance.
Pick your battles. Work hard. Find balance.
Get the best of both worlds.
I won’t apologize for my schedule. It’s crazy, hectic and once again, I missed a holiday (Mother’s Day: love you, mom) for work. But those who mind won’t matter and those who matter won’t mind.
I’m beyond grateful for parents who are supportive and understanding, but not everyone has that. And not everyone in your life will be that way. Find a tribe who surrounds you, love you and encourages you.
If you’re fortunate enough to find that tribe like I’ve found through the Sparkles and Sports family, then I believe success is already yours.